When it comes to wedding dresses, it’s probably one of, if not the most important clothing decision you’ll ever make becuase let’s face it, you want to look and feel beautiful and you’ll have photographs and videos from your big day to look back on hopefully for the rest of your life. So whilst planning an alternative wedding means you might not want a traditional wedding dress, how do you make the right choice?
The style of dress you want will dictate where you source it from
If you’ve got your heart set on something very specific and can perfectly visualise it in your heard, starting off with online searches is a good bet. Does what you’ve dreamed of already exist?
If it does, then that’s good news as you might be able to actually buy it, or if not, at least you’ll have something visual to give to a dressmaker if you choose to go down the bespoke route. If budget is no issue, then the dresses at Lucy Can’t Dance are simply stunning and well worth a look.
If you only have a vague idea of the dress you want, but know you want it to be “different” then it’s likely that you won’t find what you want in a traditional bridal boutique. That’s not to say they won’t stock a variety of different styles, but remember boutiques are largely set up to cater to the mainstream wedding industry and you’ll find dresses that remain largely traditional in their styling.
Your dress needs to be comfortable …and practical
Although you might not want to admit it, your dress choice needs to be practical. Practical for you to wear comfortably all day and for the
Likewise, if you’re planning to get married on the coast or in a rural location, the last thing you want is to be tottering on heels with an enormous train dragging on the ground behind you getting wet, muddy or snagged on things.
A full skirted ostentatious traditional gown will look ridiculous on a beach, which is much better suited to a soft, floaty and pared-down look. That said, there is something rather charming and whimsical about choosing a dress that is completely incongruous, as long as you’re prepared to own and totally rock the look!
Do be super realistic about the comfort of any dress you fall for though. You really don’t wnat to spend your special day distracted by unsuitable clothing that causes discomfort or leads to you endlessly having to pull up straps or readjust yourself to hide your modesty.
Consider what works for your body
Whilst there’s a lot to be said for not giving a damn about what you look like most of the time and dressing in whatever the hell you choose because you want to; opting for a dress in a style and with a fit that works with your body will not only lead to greater comfort, but it can also give your confidence a nice little boost on your big day.
Whether you want to accentuate or distract, or whether you just want something that feels comfortable, it’s a great idea to shop with an awareness of what works for you personally rather than letting a dress you fall in love with lull you into making a poor decision.
What’s your budget?
Your budget is going to play a big part in the kind of wedding dress you choose. If you’ve got a generous dress budget, then opting for something bespoke or from a high-end specialist bridal boutique or well-known designer becomes a viable option.
During summer most high street shops and online fashion stores carry extensive festival lines, packed full of alternative, funky fashion, including dresses and accessories. You’ll be amazed at what you can pick up!
Whatever you do, be realistic with the budget for your dress and don’t feel pressure to spend hundreds or even thousands of pounds if you can’t afford to do that. The value of the dress is irrelevant. If you love it and you love how you look in it, it doesn’t matter if it cost £100 or £1,000.
If like the rest of us you don’t have hundreds of pounds to sink into a dress, then you’ll need to get savvy. Vintage dresses, dresses from high-street shops and quirkier clothing boutiques are likely to be where it’s at for you. But don’t forget, you can customise and accessorise your dress. So if you’re keen for your dress to look more like a one-off, you can get creative and either get the dress altered or add your own flourishes and accessories.
Make sure you love it
Don’t rush your decision, but at the same time, if you know exactly what you want and find it, act quickly and decisively to snap it up and perhaps just hang on to the receipt. That way if uncertainty does creep in, you’ve got the option of returning it and choosing something else.
If you’ve found a readily available dress from a boutique or online shop and you know it’s not a one-off or likely to sell out, then you might want to take a day or two to mull things over. If it’s from a physical shop, try it on, take photos on your phone and then spend the next few days referring to the photos to ensure you’re still happy with your choice before taking the plunge and buying it.
Bought your dress? Stop looking!
Once you buy your dress, stop looking. If you keep looking after you’ve purchased it, it’s highly likely that something else beautiful that you’ll equally love will pop up. The last thing you want is for doubt to creep in and make you feel like you made the wrong decision. So, once you’ve bought your dress, it’s time to stop looking. Cross it off your list, pop it away in the wardrobe and move your thoughts on to planning the next thing rather than getting hung up on whether you made the right dress decision.